Being gay is like being left-handed. Some people are, most aren’t and nobody really knows why. It’s not right or wrong, it’s just the way things are.
The ruling by the Court of Appeal in Kenya allowing the registration of an LGBT rights body is laudable – a step in the right direction. It’s like a fresh breath of mint in the morning after a long Friday night’s binge.
Being of an otherwise sexual orientation in an African setting is hard. From an early age, its persecution. Be with the boys. Go with the other girls. Skip rope. Can you fight Allan?
One is supposed to act right, and it starts with skewed parenting. I bore a son, I’ll have me a son. God gave me a daughter, who are we to question His Almighty’s decision and accept her delusions to be a boy? It’s branded immoral, and unacceptable.
Haven’t you seen a hapless boy child condemned to endless prayer sessions for choosing a Barbie doll over a toy fire truck?
Mama is heartbroken. Papa chooses to totally ignore an innocent child clueless as to what’s really happening. What then starts for the growing kiddo is a long chain of wrong turns and poor decisions, almost always striving to please obstinate parents and an unforgiving society.
Wrong career choices. Wrong marriage partners. Stale, zombie-like marriages, living on autopilot.
However, the universe is kind to the weak and oppressed in spirit. Almost always, the soul living someone else’s life (in the closet) gets to meet a free soul – someone like them who’s been lucky enough to grow in an environment that’s free of prejudice and cruel societal judgment.
Enlightenment happens. Divorce happens next. Or, a parallel relationship sprouts. One marriage becomes a chore, to massage the society, the other becomes the source of fulfilment. A reason for living.
A lot of parents will do anything for their kids except let them be themselves. I don’t understand why people think that having a gay child means they failed as a parent. Disowning your child means you failed as a parent.
Be who you want to be, live your life as you feel fit.
This ruling meets the basic threshold to be ‘a landmark ruling’, whatever that means. I’d expect more homophobic mountains in our judgmental society to come tumbling in the wake of this ruling. Gay marriages, even.